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Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« on: September 19, 2009, 10:08:08 AM »
I will admit. I have problems trusting myself. I hesitate quite a bit. I try to "just do" but at the last second, I bail out. I have done this all my life. Dosn't matter what I am doing. After I make a desion, I keep think if I did it right or not. Even when doing something I competly know I'm right, after I second guess myself. I always am second guessing me self. No I am not indesisive. I am just a very hesitant person. I have to push myself into doing things always in the back of my mind thinkg "what the hell am I doing". 

I do not know why I am like this. It really doesn't make alot of sense really. See if I want to do something I have to slowly work my way at it. Untill...

I descovered parkour. I have always enjoyed the thrill of running and jumping even since I was little.

I started hard core training about a year ago. When I jummped into intense training I was practicallt obsessed. I was drillong 3ft drop rolls 20 or more times a day. But I was still very hesitant. I slowly started comeing out of my "shell" if you will. Even though my friend teased me. I was starting to not second guess my self as much, and my friends and parents noticed it.

But as always, I slowly was begining to slow down in my training. I wasn't "feeling it" anymore. I don't know what happend really. I lost my motivation. I went into an inactivity stage. Yes I would still watch the vids on youtube. I was still in love with the "sport" But I wasn't doing anything for it. I wasn't doing anything for myself. I began to second guess myself. I really didn't notice it. I really wasn't paying attention to myself. But my friends and family were seeing it.

My parkour high was over. I didn't drill my rolls. Or anything for that matter. I started being on my PC constantly. And I honestly didn't notice it. It wasn't till about a week ago I saw exactly were I was. I was out with some friends for the first time in a while. We went to the park and I just sat on the bench talking with them. (which isn't something I normally do). One of my closest friend (the one that really teased me but thought what I did was cool) said to me "Skye, what the hell are you doing. I know you see that rail right there, your normally all over it." I didn't even notice it...

I looked at it with a type of regret. 

Then another friend said to me, "hey why not you show us one of those vaulty thingys you do".  I said ok sure.    (Now keep in mind that this rail is only about weist high.)

I figured, why not lazy vault it. (thats my easiest vault i can do) So I started to run at it. Full speed. Aproched at 45degrees. I grabed it with one hand, jumped up. got one leg over, couldn't get my other hand down on or my other foot over. I hit the rail with my leg quite hard, and went face down into the pavement.

I rolled over and layed there for the longest time.Just looking at the trees and the sky above my, thinking about what just happened. I couldn't belive it. It was so simple, yet I couldn't do it. I should have been able to do it. It was very sobering to me how much I had let go, how much i changed. How simple it is to just say that im tiered today ill just train tomorrow. How easy it is to just let your motivation slip from your grasp. And just how easy it is to fall.

So here I am right now writing this to my fellow runners. Don't let your motivation slip. Don't let yorselves "fall"
Right now i'm back to the basic traing, trying to re-perfect my rolls. trying to get my jump back. trying to not second guess myself. I have hit my self realizeation. I have evaluated myself. I have learned from my experiance.

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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2009, 11:27:36 AM »
Greaty story bro.  I had sort of the same scenario.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #2 on: September 19, 2009, 12:16:48 PM »
I'm going through a lack-of motivation phase right now too. I had one several months ago, but not nearly as bad. Right now I'm taking a rest week to get myself back and focused, and when I get done with that, I'm going to hit it all full force again.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #3 on: September 19, 2009, 01:18:08 PM »
I'm going through a lack-of motivation phase right now too. I had one several months ago, but not nearly as bad. Right now I'm taking a rest week to get myself back and focused, and when I get done with that, I'm going to hit it all full force again.
Similar thing here. As scary as this sounds, I may be this way from....over training. It doesn't make any sense to me, but I guess to much of a good thing is an awesome thing. And too much of that is a bad thing.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #4 on: September 19, 2009, 01:19:09 PM »
This happened to me too and I quit for 9 months. I feel you. This is why i Bboy and trick and stuff too because it helps with PK but at the same time it's not exactly PK so it's a different swing for me so I never get bored.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #5 on: September 19, 2009, 05:34:20 PM »
i almost cried when i realized this is exactly what im going through..
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #6 on: September 19, 2009, 07:26:55 PM »
i almost cried when i realized this is exactly what im going through..
me too, except i teared up just a tad.




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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #7 on: September 19, 2009, 07:41:57 PM »
hahaha. lack of motivation? you have to be f#cking kidding right? now i read this and had no remorse for you at all. you said you busted your face and just kind of gave up right? well, you never gave up at all, man. we all go through ups and downs we just have to get up and try again(even with a busted nose). You my amigo you just needed to take time and have some revelations about who you were. You past your trial and you found your-self just dont lose it again. You gained valuable experience and insight upon your-self. Your lack of motivation was really your savior. Never Forget that...you never gave-up.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #8 on: September 19, 2009, 07:57:15 PM »
hahaha. lack of motivation? you have to be f#cking kidding right? now i read this and had no remorse for you at all. you said you busted your face and just kind of gave up right? well, you never gave up at all, man. we all go through ups and downs we just have to get up and try again(even with a busted nose). You my amigo you just needed to take time and have some revelations about who you were. You past your trial and you found your-self just dont lose it again. You gained valuable experience and insight upon your-self. Your lack of motivation was really your savior. Never Forget that...you never gave-up.

That's not entirely true. If it hadn't been for that fall, she wouldn't have evaluated herself. If she hadn't evaluated herself, she would've never done it again, most likely. It is possible to lose interest in PK, and I even have sometimes. I gave up a few times, but got back into it only because of the guys here on APK.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #9 on: September 19, 2009, 08:05:21 PM »
hahaha. lack of motivation? you have to be f#cking kidding right? now i read this and had no remorse for you at all. you said you busted your face and just kind of gave up right? well, you never gave up at all, man. we all go through ups and downs we just have to get up and try again(even with a busted nose). You my amigo you just needed to take time and have some revelations about who you were. You past your trial and you found your-self just dont lose it again. You gained valuable experience and insight upon your-self. Your lack of motivation was really your savior. Never Forget that...you never gave-up.

That's not entirely true. If it hadn't been for that fall, he wouldn't have evaluated himself. If he hadn't evaluated himself, he would've never done it again, most likely. It is possible to lose interest in PK, and I even have sometimes. I gave up a few times, but got back into it only because of the guys here on APK.
is that not what i said? maybe it wasnt worded clearly for you. and i dont believe you really ever lose interest in something theres always a part of you that wants to do it. like what he said he still had the love just no will for the physicall.  i believe if you truely love something the youll do it anyways without having to get, out-side help.
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« Reply #10 on: September 19, 2009, 08:06:59 PM »
This community is so supportive, you guys are honestly a second family to me, i know it sounds sad seeing as though i dont know almost any of you, but we can all relate to each other in some way, we all kindve came from the same social backround if any of you havent noticed. most of us were total nerds and played video games a lot from what i can tell, and by what ive read, and so we all kind of ended up in the same position as others. Were just like a family, we have our fights sometimes, weve all seen those, but we also have our up times and we help each other out, and its just great. Thankyou, all of you guys, your posts, videos, ect. have made me a better traceur, they have, and its gotten me a lot into parkour. You guys are great, i know eventually were all going to have a giant worldwide jam and EVERYONE will have a savings account to be there, i just know it, and it will be great, we will eventually meet the faces behind the intelligent,funny,witty posts, and its going to be great. i cant wait for that day, and i just hope its soon.

just thought it had to be said..
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« Reply #11 on: September 19, 2009, 08:14:02 PM »
This community is so supportive, you guys are honestly a second family to me, i know it sounds sad seeing as though i dont know almost any of you, but we can all relate to each other in some way, we all kindve came from the same social backround if any of you havent noticed. most of us were total nerds and played video games a lot from what i can tell, and by what ive read, and so we all kind of ended up in the same position as others. Were just like a family, we have our fights sometimes, weve all seen those, but we also have our up times and we help each other out, and its just great. Thankyou, all of you guys, your posts, videos, ect. have made me a better traceur, they have, and its gotten me a lot into parkour. You guys are great, i know eventually were all going to have a giant worldwide jam and EVERYONE will have a savings account to be there, i just know it, and it will be great, we will eventually meet the faces behind the intelligent,funny,witty posts, and its going to be great. i cant wait for that day, and i just hope its soon.

just thought it had to be said..
i look forward to running with you at that jam my friend. until then, run swift and safe
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #12 on: September 19, 2009, 08:57:58 PM »
This community is so supportive, you guys are honestly a second family to me, i know it sounds sad seeing as though i dont know almost any of you, but we can all relate to each other in some way, we all kindve came from the same social backround if any of you havent noticed. most of us were total nerds and played video games a lot from what i can tell, and by what ive read, and so we all kind of ended up in the same position as others. Were just like a family, we have our fights sometimes, weve all seen those, but we also have our up times and we help each other out, and its just great. Thankyou, all of you guys, your posts, videos, ect. have made me a better traceur, they have, and its gotten me a lot into parkour. You guys are great, i know eventually were all going to have a giant worldwide jam and EVERYONE will have a savings account to be there, i just know it, and it will be great, we will eventually meet the faces behind the intelligent,funny,witty posts, and its going to be great. i cant wait for that day, and i just hope its soon.

just thought it had to be said..
i look forward to running with you at that jam my friend. until then, run swift and safe
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« Reply #13 on: September 20, 2009, 10:39:11 AM »
Aye! Shall be a grand day indeed. A day of legends and of creation and of lust for life! The gathering alone will elicit shock and awe from the populace, and when we move, we shall move as one! It will be a manifestation of pure human spirit and we shall help propel the world into a golden age!

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« Reply #14 on: September 20, 2009, 10:47:31 AM »
only you spencer :P  ;D
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #15 on: September 20, 2009, 10:57:13 AM »
That was an interesting read. Thanks for posting this  :)
It's good that you learned from that experience and decided to "get back up" rather than "stay down".
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« Reply #16 on: September 20, 2009, 11:29:04 AM »
Something similar happened to me a while ago. Something snapped into place, and I just started going. And I haven't stopped since then, or slowed down. Before I realized what I needed to realize, I didn't understand what it would be like to release my inhibitions and materialism. It's almost impossible to understand it unless you live it. At the beginning it was almost painful, and it was always scary. I forced myself through it and now it's normal to me. It was one of the biggest changes in my life. And it's the key to success.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #17 on: September 22, 2009, 10:37:39 PM »
"I get knocked down, but I get up again" Wouldn't get out of my head as I read that post. Great write. I suffered through the same thing. I felt like I wasn't progressing like I should, that there were no obstacles in my vicinity that I could mess around on. I worked on my rolls, but they were so terrible I had to do them on padding, on carpet. Yeah... Eventually, I kinda lost my steam. I kept reading APK, because I like the forum atmosphere, and I hoped that in time, I would be able to rise with new hope and purpose. It wasn't till National Parkour Day on June 6th that I realized something I hadn't in a long time. I really wanted to do this. I was at the local elementary school, just walking around, doing a roll or two, when I thought "Hey, the last time I tried a roll on cement, I hit my head... I wonder if I can correct that." So, in the fastest, most daring way possible, I jumped down from a 6 foot wall with glory in my heart. I landed, pushed forward, and executed the best roll I had ever done. Ever. I felt so exhilarated that I had to feel it again. So, on the barkchips of the playground, I drilled. 20. 30. 50. I did 100 rolls in that hour. I felt so tired, but so accomplished, something I hadn't felt in a long time. Before that, my grades were slowly declining, I was on my computer more and more, and I just felt horrible. But then, I felt so amazing. I went into the parking lot of the school, crouched down, and rolled. I came up, not realizing what I had just done. I hadn't felt a thing. On cement... It was euphoric.

Later that day, I was looking online, and found out that ADAPT, a local training center, was holding a parkour class. I asked both parents, and they reluctantly agreed. I went there, and a ton of people I knew from school, friends, and a ton of others were there. I was astounded by all the stuff they were doing. Dive kongs, speeds, hell, one guy was doing wall flips. After that, my eyes slowly started to open. I saw more and more oppertunities, more and more goals to set, and more and more to keep pushing for.

Thanks to parkour and that feeling of total achievement, I've started feeling so much better about myself. I'm doing great in school, I'm more confident (I can talk to women, something I couldn't do before. Lols), and just feeling like I can conquer anything.

Also, I don't work a billion hours a week. I have 4 days devoted to a little bit of parkour a week. Saturday, Then Tues/Wed/Thurs. I get like, 4-5 solid hours of training in a week.

Sorry for being a thread jacker, but every time I see a thread stating "I'm new, what do I do?" Or "I'm losing motivation", I feel compelled to post this story, but I normally only post bits and pieces. This is the first time I've told the whole story, because I'm so comfortable around everyone here, that I feel like they are the family that is always beside me, no matter what.

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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #18 on: September 23, 2009, 04:11:50 AM »
This community is so supportive, you guys are honestly a second family to me, i know it sounds sad seeing as though i dont know almost any of you, but we can all relate to each other in some way, we all kindve came from the same social backround if any of you havent noticed. most of us were total nerds and played video games a lot from what i can tell, and by what ive read, and so we all kind of ended up in the same position as others. Were just like a family, we have our fights sometimes, weve all seen those, but we also have our up times and we help each other out, and its just great. Thankyou, all of you guys, your posts, videos, ect. have made me a better traceur, they have, and its gotten me a lot into parkour. You guys are great, i know eventually were all going to have a giant worldwide jam and EVERYONE will have a savings account to be there, i just know it, and it will be great, we will eventually meet the faces behind the intelligent,funny,witty posts, and its going to be great. i cant wait for that day, and i just hope its soon.

just thought it had to be said..


i fell exactly the same man.
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Re: Self realizeation, Hesitation, Trust. A brief story
« Reply #19 on: September 23, 2009, 06:46:56 AM »
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